On the other hand, even after seeing my condition, my husband does not feel any pity for me. Whenever I ask him for some work, he starts making excuses about his job. He doesn’t care about any household responsibilities. This is also one of the reasons why I have started feeling like her maidservant. I do not know what to do? But to tell the truth, if everything continues like this, then I will go mad. (All images are indicative, we protect the identity of users in the stories shared by them)
Expert Answer
Relationship coach and founder of Predictions for Success Vishal Bhardwaj says that taking care of the household is not a single person’s job, especially in nuclear families. This is because a housewife struggles a lot during this time.
This is also one of the reasons that if she does not get the support of her partner, she not only gets very tired mentally but the burden of physical work also falls on her. In such a situation, she not only becomes a victim of severe depression but also suffers from lack of self-confidence and sleep related problems.
get used to their help
As you told that your husband does not even lift his plate after eating. In such a situation, I would advise you to start defining your work. Not only this, also start taking help of your partner to complete those tasks which he can easily do.
For example, if you like to cook well, you can take their help in chopping vegetables. This will not only create a feeling of love between the two of you but things will also start getting better soon.
talk to husband
On this topic, relationship expert Nidhi Behl Vats says that the best thing is that you understand that both of you have to play equal roles to make your marriage work. This is because many times men dominate their wives and refuse to work, after which women take care of the family alone. So I would say that you have won half the battle.
But even after this you have to maintain a balance with your husband. You have to include them in your works. You two can make breakfast together. If you want, you can also take their help in preparing lunch. Have a healthy conversation with them right there. Tell them how much pressure has come on you after the birth of the child.
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